Forget Me Not Flowers for Grandpa Lyle
My grandpa or “Grandpa Lyle,” as I liked to call him, was my best friend and confidant. I spent endless hours with him watching Inspector Clouseau movies and eating puffy cheezies. He was the kind of man who was always helping others. His quick-witted comments and jokes always kept me laughing.
My family and I started to worry about him when he would forget where he was going on his walks, and then get defensive about his forgetfulness. Eventually, after a long-awaited diagnosis of Alzheimer’s disease, we knew the safest place for him was long-term care, where he wouldn’t get lost or be alone.
My mom and I would visit my grandpa often. It was difficult watching the disease progress, especially on the days when he seemed to forget who I was. I felt helpless and wish I had known about the services the Alzheimer Society provides for families. It was a tough and challenging time in my life and the support would have made a big difference in how I handled things.
My grandpa passed away in 2015 after living with Alzheimer`s disease for seven years. It shattered my world and I still miss him to this day.
Planning my upcoming wedding has been one of the hardest things I`ve had to do, I always imagined him being there. I’m planning to carry a bouquet including forget me not flowers in his honour. This way, he’ll be there with me in spirit as I walk down the aisle.
Here are my tips to help you understand:
- Appreciate the time you spend with your loved one and try to lift their spirits.
- Laugh every moment you can and keep a positive attitude.
- Always remember that it’s not THEIR fault they forget what they ate for breakfast, what you do for a living, your birthday, your name or who you are.
- Keep the memories alive through storytelling and visits.
- Get help from the Alzheimer Society when times are confusing and tough.
- Always remember the family member you love is STILL somewhere in there, you just need to find them.